Quenching A Future Imam's Learning Aspiration
While explaining the purpose of marriage: {وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ} [الروم: 21] …And from his signs is that he created for you from yourselves a pair so that you may find solace with her; and He made between you …
It appears in Bukhaari Shareef [1] that a sahaabi by the name of Nu`maan bin Basheer radiallahu anhu had presented a slave to his son. His wife insisted that she would only be pleased with him until Nabi salallahu alayhi wasallam approved of him presenting the slave to his son.
This sahaabi went up to Nabi salallahu alayhi wasallam and related what had transpired between him and his wife. He then requested Nabi salallahu alayhi wasallam to approve of his gift to his son.
This is like the situation where you wish to visit a friend who has invited you. However, his dog is obstructing the path and is barking at you. Now, there is one of three methods that you may adopt in this situation:
(1) To turn away. If you will turn away the dog will continue barking resulting in other dogs also barking. There is also the possibility that whilst running away you might trip and fall resulting in another disaster. Nevertheless, in this instance you would have distanced yourself from your friend.
Malfuz #168 In an answer one scholar's question Ml. Ashraf Ali Thanvi rahimahullah replied, "Yes indeed, there is great joy in two marriages, however, this joy is like the paradise which requires one to cross a fine bridge (siaat). When I did my second marriage, then people from family of my first marriage started saying …
The one who fears standing in the presence of his Rabb shall have two gardens. So which favours of your Rabb do the two of you deny? Both these (gardens) shall be filled with branches. So which favours of your Rabb do the two of you deny? In both (gardens) there shall be two gushing springs. So which favours of your Rabb do the two of you deny? In both there shall be a pair of every fruit. (Qur’ān Ch. 50 V. 46-52)
Many of us have confined the issue of Iṣlāh and reformation to only our outward appearance, or maybe to the acts of ʿibadāt (worships). We come to our masjid, and perform our salāt, make some tilāwah of qur’ān, make some ẓikr, probably give some ṣadaqah and charity, wear a sunnah clothing and keep a beard. But with all that, the internal value of the human being is equally important. And that is our muʿāmalāt, our dealings with people, even in the outside world.
“The Being Whose Throne is in the Heaven; Whose control is on the entire earth; His Power extends over all the living and the dead; His Name is Glorious. He is Almighty and All-Powerful.”